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Japanese bondage

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Shibari (縛り, literally meaning "bondage") is a Japanese style of sexual bondage or BDSM. Shibari involves tying up the bottom (or uke) in intricate patterns, usually with several pieces of thin rope. Shibari differs from Western bondage in that, instead of just immobilizing or restraining the bottom, the bottom gains pleasure from being under the pressure and strain of the ropes, squeezing the breasts or genitals. The aesthetics of the bound person's position are also important: in particular, Japanese bondage is notorious for its use of asymmetric positions to heighten the psychological impact of bondage.

Although some of the techniques of Japanese sexual bondage originated with the military restraint technique of Hojojutsu, sexual bondage techniques are far gentler, and great care is taken to avoid injury.

Many rope artists have derived their own flavor of Japanese-inspired bondage which often mixes some Shibari techniques with other forms of bondage.

Shibari is greatly influenced by the Sengoku period of Japan. It is known for its cruel methods of torture which include the use of fire, knives, tattoos, rocks, boiling water, divining blocks and rocking horses^{[citation needed]}, etc. The Sengoku period is one of the darkest periods in terms of torture and execution.


Eventually (in 1742) the Tokugawa government created a foundation of crime laws, which included the seven different types of punishment (Labour, slavery, exile, death, etc)and the four kinds of torture (whip, pressing stone, constriction by rope, and hanging by rope). It has to be noted that all four official methods of torture from this period are still considered the mainstream torture patterns in the S&M art today^{[citation needed]}.

Book cover for " Shibari, the Art of Japanese Bondage" by Master "K"

Traditional Shibari is based on fairly specific rope patterns, most of them derived from Hojojutsu ties. Of particular importance are the Takate Kote (a type of arm box tie), which forms the basis of most Shibari ties, and the Ebi, or "Shrimp", which was originally designed as a torture tie but today makes the bottom vulnerable for more pleasant forms of play.
Generally, traditional Shibari is practiced with ropes of 7 meters (23 feet) in length. Due to the generally different physique of Western bottoms, 8 meter (26 feet) ropes are commonly used in the West. The rope material is usually hemp or jute (neither sisal nor manila hemp are usually useful), prepared according to specific techniques to achieve a pleasantly soft yet sturdy rope. Other materials are also sometimes used, although most synthetic ropes tend to be too slippery for Shibari techniques.


For historic reasons, Shibari uses very few knots, sometimes none at all, or only a larkshead or an overhand knot. This requires rope with high friction.


According to several sources, bondage as a sexual activity first came to notice in Japan in the late Edo period. Generally recognized as "father of Shibari" is Ito Seiu, who started studying and researching Hojojutsu in 1908 and turned it into an art form. Shibari became widely popular in the 1950s in magazine form (some sources to some extent credit influence from John Willie with popularizing Shibari). In the 1960s, a tradition of bondage as a form of performance art developed in Japan.


In recent years Japanese style ropework has become popular in the western BDSM scene.

Glossary

• kinbaku (緊縛): strict bondage
• nawa shibari (縄縛り): rope tying
• nawashi (縄師): the person doing the tying, or the rope artist

Book cover for "The Seductive Art of Japanese Bondage"
with Dita Von Teese in bondage

Topics to be covered

• karada Japanese word for body. (body harness, a "rope dress")
• ushiro takate kote Foundational form for most shibari ties, capturing the upper body / breasts and arms in a "U" shape behind the back
• kikkou - Also known as the "tortoise shell". A body tie that ends with a tortoise shell design in the front upper torso.
• hishi A tie using diamond shapes. When done as a full body tie, it is sometimes also called hishi-kikkou. The hishi has been popularized by manga, or cartoon, art.
• ebi The "shrimp" tie
• agoura a less severe tie similar to an ebi
• tazuki "criss-cross harness"
• tanuki "racoon dog"
• kata ashi tsuri "one-legged semi-suspension"
• tsuri suspension
• gyaku ebi
• Hojojutsu
• Midori (author)
• RopeMarks
• Master "K"
• Drachenmann
• Nawashi Tatu

Further reading

• Midori, Craig Morey, "The Seductive Art of Japanese Bondage", Greenery Press, 2001. ISBN 1890159387
• Master "K", "Shibari, the Art of Japanese Bondage", Secret Publications, 2004. ISBN 9080770620

See also

• List of Japanese bondage models

External links

• Shibari on the Wipipedia the BDSM Wiki
• ShibariCon: Annual Shibari Educational and Community Conference in Chicago
• Nawashi Tatu's Japanese Rope ARt - Free Tutorials
• Nawashi Tatu's Glossary of Japanese Rope Terms
• RopeMarks - The True Beauty of Japanese Bondage / Shibari
• RopeMarks online traditional shibari tutorials
• RopeMarks Artistic Rope Exchange bondage glossary
• Japanese S&M
• Guide to Japanese bondage -- warning: note that some of the pictures on this site contain nudity
• Japanese-language site depicting finished Japanese bondage and tying procedures
• Master "K" at RopeMarks
• Master "K" at Immortal Shibari
• History of Shibari

Heroic Lust

Heroic Lust (A submissive's perspective on Characteristics)
We sometimes forget just what it takes to do what a dominant does best. While we chose to give up control, and follow their lead, while our mind becomes a whirlwind of emotions, and our bodies, taken to greater heights, we cannot realize at this time the inner workings of our partner. So when can we understand the strength, control and awareness that it takes to be one of the best?  Reflective thinking, perhaps, in the quiet of caring arms, when we've returned from our high. A dominant's role is not an easy one. Many take it for granted, not seeing behind the scenes of what goes through their minds. Not acknowledging the awe of what is truly present.  So what makes a good dominant and a good partnership? Heroic Lust. An easy way to remember the most important words in this lifestyle's relationship, although definitely not in this order. So what do they stand for?
Honesty	Doms are people too. Anyone not admitting to faults or mistakes is lying both to themselves and to others. Honesty goes hand in hand with Trust and Communication. Both submissives and dominants are honest with their needs, wants, dreams, and desires. It is only with Honesty, that a relationship can develop to the extent where both partners are happy. Your dishonesty about your limits or fears, or His not wanting you to know that he lacks experience with a chosen tool, can be hazardous to both parties. Be honest with yourself, and then be honest with others.
Empathy	Both partners need to be in tune to the moods of the other. We seek someone who can see the frightened child within us all, the warm companion, or just the average person who, like the rest of the world, also have problems, get tired after a hard day of work, or just isn't in the mood to always be what they want them to be.
Respect	For ourselves, for our partner, and for others. Set a good example, so that others will follow. Respect fellow dominants, or other submissives, who may need a helping hand or a bit of advice. Respect that the opinions of others do not make them right or wrong, simply different.
Observation	It's here where a dominant can really shine. Their mind tuned in to everything around them during play. Your breathing, the tightness of your bonds, your pleasure, pain, body language, and most of all, your safety. His brain is processing what he needs to do to counteract or balance your needs or what he wants to accomplish. All at the same time bringing you to that point. Imagine trying to swing a flogger, hit your mark, while making sure your hands aren't turning blue, and your breathing patterns are steady. Try it sometime. :) This is the most unappreciated and unrecognized of all their traits, and one of the most important ones.
Intelligence	Both a dominant and submissive need intelligence to be able to read, study, and comprehend all which needs to be learned and taught. Be a good conversationalist, sharing in each others passions. An enlightened mind sees things in a different light and tends to be more open minded.
Communication	Communication is paramount. One of the top 3 on my list of priorities. It is the center from where all other characteristics stem from. Without communication, any relationship- be it vanilla or otherwise - is doomed for failure. And communication doesn't mean "I talk, you listen". It is a method for understanding your relationship.
Control	Control. What would a BDSM relationship be without it? The submissive giving it up, the dominant taking it. A dominant must have control of himself first and foremost. Mentally, physically and emotionally. The submissive must be willing to relinquish their control.
Caring	Caring. Be a friend when you both need one. Warm arms when we all need to be held. A mentor when we seek answers. A soothing touch when we are afraid. A simple smile to let us know all is right with the world.
Creativity	Creativity. New ways, ideas, methods. Ever-changing patterns which evoke that rush which the mind so craves.
Loyalty	In what you are, and in what you do. In the rules that the two of you have established. This is a key facet of trust.
Understanding	Where each other is coming from, and where you want to go. Understand the opinions of another, and their outlook on life and on other people. Being able to relate in all areas. Understand that the face that you show to others is how they see you.
Strength	Primarily mental strength. Lets face it submissives aren't always compliant, and we do tend to give our dominants a run for their money. It's our job to keep their minds sharp! But all kidding aside, both parties need to feel it. Does she have the inner strength to do what I ask of her? Or, yes, because i am encompassed within his strength, I have the ability to do what is expected of me, or what I need to accomplish. "I am safe, because I feel his other strength beside me." Mental strength also assists in self control.
Safety	Safety needs no explanation. Anyone - submissive or dominant, who is not concerned about safety, shouldn't be in this lifestyle.
Trust	The crutch of any relationship, but due to the intenseness of this lifestyle's play, trust is the focal point around which everything else revolves. You trust that he will be there for you. You trust that his aim with a whip is accurate, and he trusts that you won't move and have his mark strike in the wrong place. You trust that he knows what is best for you, and at times follow blindly into the unknown, knowing full well that a mistake on his part could be damaging on many counts. He trusts that you'll follow, sometimes fearful, hesitant. But in your doing so, a dominant's mind can know no greater rush than seeing that trust, and knowing He was the cause of it. This psychological aspect of BDSM is, in my opinion, the number one factor of why we chose this lifestyle.
Heroic Lust. Put all together, these words fit its definition. Whatever importance you chose to place on each word or how you chose to remember them... is up to you.

Blood Fetish

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A blood fetish is a sexual fetish for blood. Blood fetishists may be aroused by blood on nude or semi-nude individuals (or indeed their sexual partner), with some even licking or drinking it through bloodletting. This is sometimes done by biting (referred to as "love-bites" though they are technically not^{[citation needed]}) however this is not the norm due to the potential for damage from bruising or infection. As well as being a sexual fetish, it is often considered an expression of intimacy or bonding.

There is a substantial community centered around the fetish, however it is mostly "underground" due to its controversial nature. It is partly linked with the vampire subculture, however most blood fetishists do not consider themselves "vampires", though some may have a vampire fetish - blood fetishism has a history of being referred to as "vampirism" in psychiatric literature and articles.

Bloodsports or bloodplay are general terms used for any sexual or BDSM play involving blood. It is considered edgeplay due to its nature of being able to easily spread blood borne diseases. It is also possible for the careless to cut the person too deeply and cause them to bleed excessively.

Feminization

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Feminization can be the practice, especially in female dominance, of switching the gender role of a male submissive.


It is usually achieved through cross-dressing, where the male is dressed in female attire. There are many degrees of Feminization, from just wearing female undergarments to being fully dressed in female attire.
Some males take on tasks, behaviors and roles that are overtly feminine, and adopt female mannerisms and postures in task such as sitting, walking and acting in a feminine manner.


The costume is sometimes very domestic, suggestive of servitude and out-dated, distancing the submissive male from current feminine clothing. This is also an opportunity for ageplay.


Naming may also be employed. A submissive male may be given a feminine name, designated as "a good girl", or given explicitly female insults, such as "slut" or "whore".


Hardcore feminization may also mean the male being the recipient of anal sex by a female using a strap-on dildo, or employing some form of orgasm control, usually through the use of a chastity belt or cage.


In its most extreme form, feminization can also involve hormone treatment, Mind control and Gender Reassignment Surgery.


Feminization can also be the conversion of a masculine name into a feminine name such as ‘Stephen’ into ‘Stephanie’, ‘Joseph’ into ‘Josephine’ or 'Regis' into 'Ragina'. Feminization of a masculine name can be achieved by adding an ‘ie’ or ‘a’ to the name though there are several irregular names that can not follow this model such as ‘Samuel’ to ‘Samantha’. In general feminine names end with an ē or au sound.

See also

• Bottom (BDSM)
• Domination and submission
• Erotic humiliation
• Female dominance
• Gender Reassignment Surgery
• Mind control
• Petticoating
• Skoptic syndrome

Breast Bondage

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Breast bondage is a technique used in BDSM play. It differs from most bondage techniques in that it is not intended to restrict the mobility of the tied person directly. However, it can do so indirectly when it is combined with other techniques. Rope is usually used, due to its ease of use, but leather straps and even chains can also be used. A bondage harness can also be used to achieve the same effect as breast bondage.

Methods

Ropes are tied around the base of each breast, causing the breasts to bulge outwards. Usually, the same rope is used for both breasts so that the rope harness is automatically held together at the front. The rope may then also be fixed behind the back, to make a sort of bra. For this to work, the tied person needs large breasts; it is rarely possible to do it to a male.


Another technique is to put a rope round the torso just above the breasts, and another one just below them, then push the ropes together to squeeze the breasts from the top and bottom, as shown in this image. This can be done instead of, or as well as, the other method. A rope can also be passed over the shoulders and between the breasts, drawing the rope above and below the breasts together, then pass back over the shoulders to the knots at the back. The primary rope can be used to place cinches between the arms and the body.


This technique is often combined with elbow bondage, to make the breasts stick out even more, as shown in the picture above. When using elbow bondage in an advanced method, the elbow ropes as they pass under the shoulders and behind the neck can draw the ropes above and below the breasts together at the sides of the breasts, thus resulting in rope effectively surrounding the breasts. Alternatively, the ropes across the back can be linked to a box tie or a reverse prayer position.


Sometimes, nipple clamps are placed on the nipples.

Effect and other uses

Apart from the visual appearance of the breasts being lifted, the pressure that is applied results in a reduction in blood flow, and a further swelling and firming of the breasts. This makes them very sensitive, especially the nipples and surrounding areas, and it can be quite pleasurable to the bound person when they are stimulated. Conversely, if nipple clamps are used, the nipples will be particularly sensitive to this and the degree of pain significantly greater. Rubber bands around the breasts have also been used with breast bondage to increase this effect still further, but can lead to a dangerous restriction in blood flow (see safety).


Breast bondage can play an integral part in suspension bondage. If the subject is being suspended, particularly in a horizontal position such as a suspended hogtie, breast bondage is used as the main supporting area under the chest. If there are ropes above and below the breasts at the upper chest, the weight of the upper body is taken by these ropes. With so much pressure in this area, the rope must be precisely placed or once again blood flow could be reduced (see safety). The Japanese use a sophisticated form of breast bondage called "Shinju". Similar to breast bondage combined with a box tie, it is often used in suspension bondage.

Safety

As with any situation where tight ropes are used, it is possible that blood flow will be restricted too much, which can cause pain and lasting damage if care is not used. Photos of breast bondage sometimes show that the breasts have turned purple. If this happens, blood flow may have been restricted too much and it may be safer to remove or loosen the ropes.

See also

Shinju

References

• The Visual Dictionary of Sex, Dr. Eric J Trimmer (editor), ISBN 0894790110; A & W Publishers, 1977