Friday, November 5, 2010

Japanese bondage

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Shibari (縛り, literally meaning "bondage") is a Japanese style of sexual bondage or BDSM. Shibari involves tying up the bottom (or uke) in intricate patterns, usually with several pieces of thin rope. Shibari differs from Western bondage in that, instead of just immobilizing or restraining the bottom, the bottom gains pleasure from being under the pressure and strain of the ropes, squeezing the breasts or genitals. The aesthetics of the bound person's position are also important: in particular, Japanese bondage is notorious for its use of asymmetric positions to heighten the psychological impact of bondage.

Although some of the techniques of Japanese sexual bondage originated with the military restraint technique of Hojojutsu, sexual bondage techniques are far gentler, and great care is taken to avoid injury.

Many rope artists have derived their own flavor of Japanese-inspired bondage which often mixes some Shibari techniques with other forms of bondage.



Shibari is greatly influenced by the Sengoku period of Japan. It is known for its cruel methods of torture which include the use of fire, knives, tattoos, rocks, boiling water, divining blocks and rocking horses[citation needed], etc. The Sengoku period is one of the darkest periods in terms of torture and execution.


Eventually (in 1742) the Tokugawa government created a foundation of crime laws, which included the seven different types of punishment (Labour, slavery, exile, death, etc)and the four kinds of torture (whip, pressing stone, constriction by rope, and hanging by rope). It has to be noted that all four official methods of torture from this period are still considered the mainstream torture patterns in the S&M art today[citation needed].


Book cover for " Shibari, the Art of Japanese Bondage" by Master "K"

Traditional Shibari is based on fairly specific rope patterns, most of them derived from Hojojutsu ties. Of particular importance are the Takate Kote (a type of arm box tie), which forms the basis of most Shibari ties, and the Ebi, or "Shrimp", which was originally designed as a torture tie but today makes the bottom vulnerable for more pleasant forms of play.
Generally, traditional Shibari is practiced with ropes of 7 meters (23 feet) in length. Due to the generally different physique of Western bottoms, 8 meter (26 feet) ropes are commonly used in the West. The rope material is usually hemp or jute (neither sisal nor manila hemp are usually useful), prepared according to specific techniques to achieve a pleasantly soft yet sturdy rope. Other materials are also sometimes used, although most synthetic ropes tend to be too slippery for Shibari techniques.


For historic reasons, Shibari uses very few knots, sometimes none at all, or only a larkshead or an overhand knot. This requires rope with high friction.


According to several sources, bondage as a sexual activity first came to notice in Japan in the late Edo period. Generally recognized as "father of Shibari" is Ito Seiu, who started studying and researching Hojojutsu in 1908 and turned it into an art form. Shibari became widely popular in the 1950s in magazine form (some sources to some extent credit influence from John Willie with popularizing Shibari). In the 1960s, a tradition of bondage as a form of performance art developed in Japan.


In recent years Japanese style ropework has become popular in the western BDSM scene.

Glossary

  • kinbaku (緊縛): strict bondage
  • nawa shibari (縄縛り): rope tying
  • nawashi (縄師): the person doing the tying, or the rope artist


Book cover for "The Seductive Art of Japanese Bondage"
with Dita Von Teese in bondage

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Monday, November 1, 2010

Sunday, October 31, 2010

What Kind Of Vampire Are You?


What Kind Of
Vampire Are You?


You are a seductive vampire. You lure your victims to you with your looks, and possibly more...you have no conscience when it comes to killing them...


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Wednesday, October 27, 2010

Heroic Lust

Heroic Lust

We sometimes forget just what it takes to do what a dominant does best. While we chose to give up control, and follow their lead, while our mind becomes a whirlwind of emotions, and our bodies, taken to greater heights, we cannot realize at this time the inner workings of our partner. So when can we understand the strength, control and awareness that it takes to be one of the best? 


Reflective thinking, perhaps, in the quiet of caring arms, when we've returned from our high. A dominant's role is not an easy one. Many take it for granted, not seeing behind the scenes of what goes through their minds. Not acknowledging the awe of what is truly present. 




So what makes a good dominant and a good partnership? Heroic Lust. An easy way to remember the most important words in this lifestyle's relationship, although definitely not in this order. So what do they stand for?

Honesty
Doms are people too. Anyone not admitting to faults or mistakes is lying both to themselves and to others. Honesty goes hand in hand with Trust and Communication. Both submissives and dominants are honest with their needs, wants, dreams, and desires. It is only with Honesty, that a relationship can develop to the extent where both partners are happy. Your dishonesty about your limits or fears, or His not wanting you to know that he lacks experience with a chosen tool, can be hazardous to both parties. Be honest with yourself, and then be honest with others. 

Empathy Both partners need to be in tune to the moods of the other. We seek someone who can see the frightened child within us all, the warm companion, or just the average person who, like the rest of the world, also have problems, get tired after a hard day of work, or just isn't in the mood to always be what they want them to be.

Respect For ourselves, for our partner, and for others. Set a good example, so that others will follow. Respect fellow dominants, or other submissives, who may need a helping hand or a bit of advice. Respect that the opinions of others do not make them right or wrong, simply different.

Observation It's here where a dominant can really shine. Their mind tuned in to everything around them during play. Your breathing, the tightness of your bonds, your pleasure, pain, body language, and most of all, your safety. His brain is processing what he needs to do to counteract or balance your needs or what he wants to accomplish. All at the same time bringing you to that point. Imagine trying to swing a flogger, hit your mark, while making sure your hands aren't turning blue, and your breathing patterns are steady. Try it sometime. :) This is the most unappreciated and unrecognized of all their traits, and one of the most important ones.

Intelligence Both a dominant and submissive need intelligence to be able to read, study, and comprehend all which needs to be learned and taught. Be a good conversationalist, sharing in each others passions. An enlightened mind sees things in a different light and tends to be more open minded.

Communication
Communication is paramount. One of the top 3 on my list of priorities. It is the center from where all other characteristics stem from. Without communication, any relationship- be it vanilla or otherwise - is doomed for failure. And communication doesn't mean "I talk, you listen". It is a method for understanding your relationship. 

Control Control. What would a BDSM relationship be without it? The submissive giving it up, the dominant taking it. A dominant must have control of himself first and foremost. Mentally, physically and emotionally. The submissive must be willing to relinquish their control.

Caring Caring. Be a friend when you both need one. Warm arms when we all need to be held. A mentor when we seek answers. A soothing touch when we are afraid. A simple smile to let us know all is right with the world. 

Creativity Creativity. New ways, ideas, methods. Ever-changing patterns which evoke that rush which the mind so craves.


Loyalty In what you are, and in what you do. In the rules that the two of you have established. This is a key facet of trust.

Understanding Where each other is coming from, and where you want to go. Understand the opinions of another, and their outlook on life and on other people. Being able to relate in all areas. Understand that the face that you show to others is how they see you.

Strength
Primarily mental strength. Lets face it submissives aren't always compliant, and we do tend to give our dominants a run for their money. It's our job to keep their minds sharp! But all kidding aside, both parties need to feel it. Does she have the inner strength to do what I ask of her? Or, yes, because i am encompassed within his strength, I have the ability to do what is expected of me, or what I need to accomplish. "I am safe, because I feel his other strength beside me." Mental strength also assists in self control. 

Safety Safety needs no explanation. Anyone - submissive or dominant, who is not concerned about safety, shouldn't be in this lifestyle.

Trust The crutch of any relationship, but due to the intenseness of this lifestyle's play, trust is the focal point around which everything else revolves. You trust that he will be there for you. You trust that his aim with a whip is accurate, and he trusts that you won't move and have his mark strike in the wrong place. You trust that he knows what is best for you, and at times follow blindly into the unknown, knowing full well that a mistake on his part could be damaging on many counts. He trusts that you'll follow, sometimes fearful, hesitant. But in your doing so, a dominant's mind can know no greater rush than seeing that trust, and knowing He was the cause of it. This psychological aspect of BDSM is, in my opinion, the number one factor of why we chose this lifestyle.


Heroic Lust. Put all together, these words fit its definition. Whatever importance you chose to place on each word or how you chose to remember them... is up to you.

Thursday, October 21, 2010

Saturday, October 16, 2010

What Sign Is Your True Love?

Your True Love Is a...
Taurus!!!


Why you'll love a Taurus:


Romantic and sentimental, a Taurus can
provide you with the security you need.



You both share a fondness for the finest things,
from great food to luxury vacations.



Why a Taurus will love you:


You have the honesty and direct approach
that down to earth Taurus desires.



And enough elegance to show a Taurus
a few new decadent delights!

Raspberry Dreams Part 5

*** Note:  This series started out as a poem that has become more, it is a collaborative effort by GentleLady & Myself If you have comments, requests or ideas you can email Us.***


He woke up as from a dream. He had been feverish for a couple of days, he felt weak. He thought She had been there with him, there was a light scent of raspberries in the air. His room had been cleaned while he slept. He tried to remember what had happened to him but he only had erotic flashes of things, bits and pieces, only remembering Her face, Her voice floating through his mind, the scent of raspberries causing him to become aroused, craving Her cherry red toes for some reason.  He heard a bell chime. He forgot everything as he sank to his knees and waited. He couldn’t understand it.

She strode into the room to see him kneeling. Smiling secretly She slid her hand down his cheek to tip his chin up. She asked him how he was feeling. Responding he told Her that he couldn’t remember why he felt so weak and drained. She explained to him that he had an allergic reaction to some berries he ate. She stroked his cheek; he gazed up at Her adoringly. Whispering he asked if he could kiss her lovely feet. She smiled, yes My pet you may. Leaning forward he lovingly placed kisses on Her feet. It aroused him to be at Her feet. Sliding his cheek against Her foot he groaned softly. 

Deep down he knew that he belonged to Her, his Mistress. She was a Goddess to him. She was everything. Lying at Her feet he rolled his eyes to see her. Finally taking in the details of what she was wearing. It was a light summer dress in a deep purple, that complemented Her honey, colored skin. The dress was strapless and was long, almost covering the tops of Her feet. The sides of the dress had slits in them that when She moved he could see her legs; he could tell She was only wearing the dress and stiletto sandals, the lacing twined up her leg hidden by the dress. The sandals sparkled; the silver drawing his eyes back down to Her feet. Staring at Her sandals he wanted to be the laces that twined around Her shapely legs.

Needing to obey Her. Wanting to please Her. Craving Her control. Blazing with desire for Her. Coveting Her toes. Yearning for Her smile. Lusting for Her touch. Dreaming of Her scent. Aching for Her. Feeling so possessive of Her. All of these things flit through his mind. She is a Goddess. She is Everything to him. She gazes down at him and smiles.

Pressing his face to Her leg he whimpers; not understanding why he was doing this. She watched him as She slid her hand into his hair, grabbing a handful she tugged his head to where She wanted it . She used Her finger to lightly graze his bottom lip, he groaned and tried to press against Her leg, he couldn’t believe he wanted to slide his erection on Her feet. Blushing he gazed up at Her. She slipped Her finger into his mouth, he was in heaven. She asked him what he needed; he responded that he needed to serve Her. She stepped away from him letting her finger slide from his mouth. She turned telling him to follow Her upstairs, he moved to stand and She whispered for him to crawl behind Her. 

Following behind Her, he did not see what She reached for when She got to the door. Turning She had him kneel up so that She could put his collar on. Feeling even more submissive he moaned as he heard Her buckle the collar in place. She attached the leash to the collar and pressed the folded leash into his mouth. We are going up stairs pet, She stated, moving quickly up the spiral staircase he groans and follows. 

As he crawled after Her he became more aroused because he couldn’t understand why he had no will power around Her. Whatever She said, he would do. She was waiting for him as he reached the top of the staircase. She smiled at him and motioned for him to open the door for Her. As She walked past him Her scent teased and tantalized him. Becoming more aroused he couldn’t decide what he was doing in the garden. Her special garden filled with beautiful and exotic plants. Following wherever She was leading him; he moaned softly.



The Dom/Sub/Kinkiness Tests

Perfectly balanced
Your final tally: 2

You and your partner share equal power. Neither of you is 
completely dominant or completely submissive. You have 
reached that beautiful harmony in your relationship that others 
are so jealous of. You trade off hats, pants, and toys and are 
always looking out for each others' best interests. Congrats.

My test tracked 1 variable How you compared
to other people your age and gender:
You scored higher than 47% on Dom points




Switch
You scored:
8 dominance, 
3 submission,
14 switch, 
2 vanilla.

You like to give, and receive! Yea for you!
You found a balance you like, now find
someone to go with you! Congratulations :)

My test tracked 4 variables How you compared
to other people your age and gender:
You scored 8% on dominance, higher than 59% of your peers.
You scored 3% on submission, higher than 23% of your peers.
You scored 14% on switch, higher than 89% of your peers.
You scored 2% on vanilla, higher than 44% of your peers.




Goddess
You scored 84% Dominance and 72% Technique!

You are, quite simply, mind-blowingly and unbearably hot. 
You would not just be a 'good' Dominatrix. You would be - hell
you *are* - a stunning and breathtaking sexual experience
for whatever man that is lucky enough to be captured by you.

Whatever you do, don't let your talents go to waste. Use them. 
Nurture them. Impart them to others. And, if all else fails, call me ;)
 Thank you for taking my test, Ma'am - I hope we can meet someday.

My test tracked 3 variables How you compared
to other people your age and gender:
You scored 84% on Dominance, higher than 96% of your peers.
You scored 72% on Technique, higher than 77% of your peers.
You scored  100% on Intangibles, higher than 59% of your peers.




You are 19% Submissive!
Dominance is a personality trait that all of us have to some degree.
Some people are just happier when they are the ones in control and
they enjoy knowing people are following their lead.

Others enjoy being guided, and enjoy letting others take charge.
In a sexual/relationship context Dominants love the power they
get from having a partner trust them enough to submit to their will,
and love using that power to please their partner, perhaps in
ways their partner never expects.

Submissive and dominant personality traits are part of everyone's
natural make-up. You may be very submissive in the workplace or in
being the head of your family, and yet still be dominant when it
comes to relationship or sexual matters.

If you scored very low you may want to take my test on dominance,
and may have already explored BDSM as a healthy outlet for your
need to control and direct others.

My test tracked 1 variable How you compared
to other people your age and gender:
You scored 19% submissive, higher than 14% of your peers.




You are 76% dominant!
Dominance is a personality trait that all of us have to some degree.
Some people are just happier when they are the ones in control and
they enjoy knowing people are following their lead.

Others enjoy being guided, and enjoy letting others take charge.
In a sexual/relationship context Dominants love the power they
get from having a partner trust them enough to submit to their will,
and love using that power to please their partner, perhaps in
ways their partner never expects.

Submissive and dominant personality traits are part of everyone's
natural make-up. You may be very submissive in the workplace or in
being the head of your family, and yet still be dominant when it
comes to relationship or sexual matters.

If you scored very low you may want to take my test on submission,
and may have already explored BDSM as a healthy outlet for your
need to control and direct others.

My test tracked 1 variable How you compared
to other people your age and gender:
You scored higher than 93% on Dominance



Kinky/Twisted!
You are 95% kinky/twisted

90-100% It is highly advisable that you contact the writer of this test
ASAP to arrange for a personal retesting... you sure know how to
have twisted kinky fun times!

My test tracked 1 variable How you compared
to other people your age and gender:
You scored higher than 85% on variable 1




Kinky Bitch!
Grats! You're 91% kinky!

Well, well, well, you kinky Bitch! Most likely you're into 
some weird shit, which is always great. Consider mailing the 
author of this test, and keep up the good work. ;)

My test tracked 1 variable How you compared
to other people your age and gender:
You scored 91% on kink points, higher than 96% of your peers.





Category 6
You scored 805 variable 1!

You are the most perfect woman God ever created. You are 
the reason that this test was created. You are a Goddess. Men
with foot fetishes will pray to You. We all love You. Your feet are 
the treasures that we all fantasize about. If You're not on my 
website email me and we can work something out. If you have a 
significant other, he is the luckiest man alive. I am jealous of 
him. I could go on but, I think You know that 
You're every foot man's wet dream and more.

You scored 805 on variable 1, higher than 97%of your peers!